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As the Mayan calendar finishes and we approach December 21 many people may be wondering what the future holds for us as we move into a brand new year and time in January 2013.

My thoughts are that we are entering a time of growth and spiritual awareness; we are becoming more compassionate as research over the last few years is proving. But it is time to be more compassionate with ourselves, especially at this time of year. It is a time when we put extra pressure on ourselves to create a ‘perfect Christmas’ and we beat ourselves up when we don’t meet our own exacting standards.

I had a call recently from a lady who suffers from chronic pain and who wanted to be able to ‘do Christmas’ for everybody’ as it was her turn, this was proving overwhelming, and with the cold snap and added stress her pain was becoming worse. I advised her to ‘be kind to herself’ and share her concerns, delegate the essential jobs and let go of those that don’t need to be done.

Christmas is a time of coming together and sharing, supporting each other and letting people know we care- we can do this by just being together. Life is not perfect and if we accept this and acknowledge what we are able to do and what we love with gratitude and celebrate this then we are much more able to be self-accepting- this self-compassion, and compassion for others helps release oxytocin into our system and endorphins which boost the immune system and relive pain naturally- just what we need in the winter months!

New groups are springing up to draw us closer together in our sacred human nature as Jack Kornfield says “Our deepest nature is love”.

Love is the best message to share this Christmas – be it through giving a helping hand to those around us or just making contact with old friends, relatives we rarely see, and making new friends.

So, I have put together this bumper issue in the hope that there is something here to inspire and uplift everyone for this Christmas and into the New Year 2013 there will be web links throughout to explore and be inspired by. But for those of you short on time I am putting a few here to go right into

I had the good fortune to attend an intensive course in mindful self-compassion training this summer with two of the most inspiring people I have ever met.

Here are the links to their websites below which include a lot of valuable tips and information, and some lovely meditations to download or listen to for free!

And if you go on to my website to  www.annetteboden.co.uk/compassion-focused-therapy you can also watch a video about their work.

For Kristin Neff’s website go to www.self-compassion.org.

For Christopher Germer’s website go to http://www.mindfulselfcompassion.org/.

I am looking forward to supporting ‘Action For Happiness’ a great new group sharing information to uplift and help you to get involved in:

“Action for Happiness is a movement for positive social change. We’re bringing together people from all walks of life who want to play a part in creating a happier society for everyone.”

 To learn more go to http://www.actionforhappiness.org/     

Some top tips for this Christmas and New Year

  • Kindness and compassion for self and others releases a powerful and important chemical called oxytocin that promotes our health and well-being.

http://io9.com/5925206/10-reasons-why-oxytocin-is-the-most-amazing-molecule-in-the-world

  • Compassion and loving kindness heal emotional rifts
  • Think about writing a compassionate letter to yourself when you are feeling particularly hard on yourself see Kristin Neff’s website www.self-compassion.org for this and further exercises in self-compassion.
  • Be kind to yourself through the busy festive season and as part of your new year programme of wellbeing commitment pamper yourself and nourish your body and mind from a selection of the following wellbeing treats on offer, and perhaps treat a friend or loved one too!
  • Practice mindfulness and meditation- details of where to go locally are detailed below.

The pampering starts here!

Group pamper evenings, Chinley, Chapel en le frith, Whaley Bridge, Buxton, Macclesfield ( £20 travel cost applied outside the High peak to allow for travel time and petrol) enjoy a relaxation session in the comfort and convenience of your own home with friends and family for £10 per person (minimum 6 people) or £60 per session for up to 10 people. I offer tailor made evening based on my popular workshops covering topics such as ‘sleeping well’, and ‘easy weight management’. These are ideal for Hen nights, Bridal parties, birthday get-togethers or just for a relaxing evening with friends and family getting together.

Relaxation CDs: Sleeping well, weight management (for after the festive indulgences), raising self-esteem, and a selection of three tranquil pure deep relaxation and stress relieving CDs; Tranquil Beach, tranquil forest, and tranquil garden

Mindful meditation group – every Wednesday evening at Blythe House from 7.30-8.30pm £3 and all proceeds go to Blyth House. For more information contact David Oldham on 01298 875085 or email david.oldham@blythehouse.co.uk

Take advantage of my Christmas gifts and special offers for my newsletter subscribers, family, or friends to take advantage of this offer quote ‘gift 2012’ when booking:

A free 20minute assessment at the first session of any one to one sessions you book with me from mid-December 2012 and for the month of January 2013 or £5 off each session when 2 sessions are booked and completed – £10 will be deducted from the session fee on completion of our second session together.

I offer a safe space, and a non-judgmental, compassion-focused, empowering therapy service for many issues. These include: relationship issues, anxiety, insomnia, confidence issues, chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, low self-esteem, weight management, and much more.

For further information about the services I offer please visit www.annetteboden.co.uk or call me direct on 07753 957371.

Saturday 22 December a special Christmas invitation

This year I am opening the doors at my Chinley practice from 10-11.30am on December 22 to offer Christmas gifts and information about my services.

I will be selling my CDs – £10 each, and premium quality essential oils: Lavender 40/42 therapy strength £4 each and ‘Sweet Dreams’ a popular favourite amongst my clients and friends for a relaxing and restful night’s sleep £5 each. I will also be selling vouchers for any value from £5 to £55.

So for an opportunity to buy those last minute Christmas presents and to ask any questions come along if you can- a warm and compassionate welcome will be waiting.

I would also like to recommend a couple of programmes and groups:

Sarah Talbot

0777 202 4653

www.bemindful.co.uk

Sarah runs the excellent 8-week mindfulness based stress reduction programme (MBSR) in New Mills. This can be positively life-changing and is the programme that Jon Kabbat Zinn and colleagues devised in the 1990s and is the best introduction to mindfulness practice for those who have not had any previous experience.

As well as the normal 8-week course Sarah also runs the course over 3 Saturdays, one day a month in Bakewell.

A one year mindfulness training course in 2013 in Macclesfield led by David Oldham and Heather Regan Addis.

This course runs over 4 weekends from January 2013 to August 2013 from 10am-5pm

Location: Whaley Hall in Whaley Bridge

For further information and to book a place go to: http://mindfulnessassociation.net/Courses.aspx?inf_contact_key=448eecde4f9b1bca744aa9e4babde42958967748c7c438917ce6073e748a431d 

If you’re in need of some exercise and want to get fit then why not join a jogging group for an uplifting challenge with an expert instructor supporting you all the way.

For more information go to www.jogderbyshire.co.uk

There are beginners groups starting soon for Chinley and Buxworth:

Contact Liz Stillo on 01663 750640 or email therapies@lisarutter.co.uk or call Lisa direct on 07710 233156.

Chinley relaxation classes

 Mondays 10-11 am £5 and all are welcome to this friendly class to give your week a positive start.

Tuesday evenings 7-8pm £5

The new evening classes start on January 8th and places are limited so booking is essential.

NB: All classes are now being run from my Chinley practice at 18a Green Lane through the winter months and places are strictly limited so booking is essential.

Please note

my tips and shared information are not a replacement for medical advice. They are intended for personal growth and development and to enable you to think about new ways of addressing and overcoming emotional challenges. Always speak to your doctor before making any changes if you are under medical care, this includes medication regimes.